5 Effective Ways to Flirt on a First Date (If You’d Be Interested in a Second)
The chances of being asked out on a second date by a guy you like on a first date are exponentially greater if you are skilled in getting your message of wanting another date across during the first date itself. Below are five effective ways to flirt on a first date you’re genuinely enjoying:
Everyone loves a warm smile, so make sure you show off your pearly whites. Of course, this doesn’t mean sitting across from your date smiling like the Cheshire cat. It does mean, however, to show you’re genuinely happy. Smile frequently throughout your date, as this communicates the fact that you are having a good time.
2. Laugh Often
Again, the idea is to have fun on your first date. This will increase the chances of a second date. Laughing is a big part of this equation. Be careful with this tip, though. Excessive laughing, especially at something that isn’t that funny, will seem like you are trying too hard. However, don’t hesitate to share your real laugh when something is amusing enough to merit a chuckle.
3. Touch Occasionally
At some point during your date, touch your man. A light touch on his hand or a brush of your hand across his knee is all that is necessary. You can also do a half-hug when first meeting that will work as well. Combine them all to create an overall successful first date. This is one way to flirt that will communicate your desire for more than one date.
4. Compliment Him
Don’t go overboard, but at some point make sure you compliment your date. This will show him you are into him, that you admire him, and you want to get to know him better. Would opt to compliment something he did versus his physical appearance. You can compliment his date venue choice, or whatever else you can think of, but again, don’t go too far. A guy will know if you are just giving him empty praise. Really mean any compliment you are giving him – make it genuine.
5. Imply You Are Open For More
During your first date, one of the most effective ways to flirt is to imply you are into your guy. You should ensure he knows you want to go out again. Don’t be too pushy about it, though. You don’t have to pin him down on your next date, time or place. However, you can mention how you like doing a certain activity then casually say something to imply you would like him to go along with you next time you do it.
In short, if you enjoyed the company on your first date and would look forward to a second, don’t hesitate to communicate your interest in your date.
Matchmaker & Dating Coach: Jasbina Ahluwalia
She is an Indian-American Attorney-turned-Entrepreneur, Relationship Expert, Radio Show Host and Matchmaker/Dating Coach.
A finalist in OPRAH’S search for a TV Host, she’s also been featured in the New York Times, San Jose Mercury News, Chicago Tribune, Washington Post & Entrepreneur Magazine.
She has also moderated/participated on panels at Harvard Business School, Wharton, Northwestern & Columbia.
Jasbina previously practiced law in San Francisco and Chicago. She earned her B.A/M.A. in Philosophy from Vanderbilt University, and JD from the University of Michigan Law School.