Nice Guys Can Have Game Too: 5 Tips for Becoming Irresistibly Edgy
There’s an old saying that “nice guys finish last.” If you’re someone who believes in karma and being a decent human being, you’ll still strive to be a nice guy. However, being “nice” doesn’t have to be bland and boring. Use these five tips to keep your edge and appeal to the opposite sex:
A man who knows what he wants out of life isn’t just intoxicatingly sexy to women – he’s also far more likely to be happy and successful in his own life.
Get clear on your true passions and interests outside of dating. It will energize you in a way that makes you more magnetic, interesting and appealing to women.
2. Focus On Bringing Value to Women’s Lives
As a nice guy, you like to help people when you can. This ethos can be applied in the dating world, too. How can you enhance the lives of the women you’re interested in?
Focus on knowing ahead of time what kinds of positive experiences you want to bring them. From lavish dinners and gifts to unforgettable experiences that uplift them, your nice guy traits can be synonymous with killer game in the dating scene.
3. Downplay Your Nice-Ness
This may seem counter-intuitive, but it happens: bad boys can be more alluring than nice guys – at least on the surface. Many women hope they can help bring out the “heart of gold” in even the worst bad boy.
So retain your nice guy values, but at the same time, allow an air of mystery.
4. Be Decisive
Another pitfall some nice guys fall into is deferring too much to the women they date. They think they’re “being nice,” when many women find this behavior annoying.
Make it a habit of being decisive on dates. From choosing a restaurant to deciding where to park to going in for the kiss after an amazing time, being focused and decisive shows your confidence.
5. Value Your Own Time, Energy and Effort
Being a nice guy with game means being nice to yourself, too. Never fall into the “nice guy trap” of letting women walk all over you and take advantage of your nice guy nature.
Women who don’t respect your time, effort and innate value don’t deserve you. Find someone who does.
Yes, nice guys can get the girl! Use these five tips to up your game while still staying true to your nice guy values.
Matchmaker & Dating Coach: Jasbina Ahluwalia
She is an Indian-American Attorney-turned-Entrepreneur, Relationship Expert, Radio Show Host and Matchmaker/Dating Coach.
A finalist in OPRAH’S search for a TV Host, she’s also been featured in the New York Times, San Jose Mercury News, Chicago Tribune, Washington Post & Entrepreneur Magazine.
She has also moderated/participated on panels at Harvard Business School, Wharton, Northwestern & Columbia.
Jasbina previously practiced law in San Francisco and Chicago. She earned her B.A/M.A. in Philosophy from Vanderbilt University, and JD from the University of Michigan Law School.